All the single ladies... OK and Gents too. This post is for you. I first heard about this via one of my favorite podcast subscriptions, The Lively Show. Jess the host is all about keeping it real and living with oodles of intention. Never a bad thing right? Especially when it comes to finding the One. We all know it doesn't come easy for most. Including myself. Especially when life happens and being individuals who all carry around our own fair share of quirks, issues and baggage. Some Good, Bad or Straight-up ugly. But, with that said their is hope for us all. Please forgive me for getting all Pollyanna on y'all:) But, I found my relationship hope again in a form of a Podcast that lead me to a really cool Author that wrote a book about a subject that historically scared the shit out of me until now...Finding the One.
I am not gonna rehash my own relationship woes today at length here, because honestly that's usually not my style here at StoryboardC. And if your a longtime reader you know the topic of relationships rarely makes the cut. When I began blogging Nine (million) years ago, that was one subject I consciously chose not to post for readership consumption. It really was more about, my then Husbands privacy more than my own. I am pretty open book otherwise, but I respected his wishes and kept quiet about us. Fast forwarding to now, I am quite OK with opening up a bit more about relationships or lack of:) Especially if it helps others and myself in the short or long run:) So, with no further Adieu or before I chicken out. Let's get started...
While still living in Austin, Texas and on my commutes to work I would catch up on Jess's Podcasts. One in particular peaked my interest, The Lively Show Episode #108: Consciously Completing a Relationship with Katherine Woodward Thomas. Weird one for me to pick honestly. I was/am currently in that moment far from any coupling or conscious completing of one at that. But, the more I listened I was shocked by the similarities of myself and the Author. I realized as I was listening she was naming so many of my own fears and issues. By the time I arrived at work, my head was on fire with needing to work this relationship shit out and delve farther in it. But, that wasn't the day for it or even month. There is a place and time for everything right? So, I took a mental note and filed it away until I completed my move back home to Minnesota.
Now that I have been home for Two months, time flies when you make the right moves:) I have been reading daily Calling in the One: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of your Life. Before you scoff the title, hear me out...
First, I need to tell what this book is NOT before I go ahead and praise it's merits. It's NOT a tips and tricks kind of book. It's not gonna land you savvy hook-ups on Tinder. It's not gonna snare you that ideal textbook ONE:) But, it will help you discover someone out of your norm. It will help you unblock your own emotional roadblocks to relationships and yourself. It will break wide open any fears or unworthiness you have been holding onto for dear life. Lastly, it will be a honest, yet difficult at times realization that putting work into your own life...is key. Remember that 'bullshit' saying we have all heard at one time or another, "If you focus on yourself, the right one will come along." I am starting to truly believe this wholeheartedly. Now I am feeling a sense of peace and gratitude in my own singleness instead of the usual shaming of 'the what the hell is wrong with me' inner dialogue.
My Own How-To Formula to reading this book:
Katherine's Book (I would call it more of a Workbook if anything) is broken up into 7 Weekly Chapter/Sections. She suggests that one take the 7 week time-frame to complete and do each individual lesson within that week daily. Now that I am nearly finished not a bad idea, but I liked my own approach as well. But, I feel with so many things find what works for you. No way is the right way:) right?!?
I also decided to do most of my reading at night before going to bed. Softly tackling up to three daily lessons with a Pen and highlighter in hand. Then writing down what resonated most with me on the page margins before dozing off to sleep as the lessons marinated overnight. Then in the Morning while doing my Morning Pages, working out the questions and insights with optimum sunrise clarity:) I also enjoyed using my intuition/gut as a helpful guide, even skipping sections that didn't seem meant for me at this time. There was also sections I spent numerous mornings on that I felt needed more focus. Overall I am really happy with honing in on using my intuition/gut more throughout this book. This is a topic I really want to go into more detail in a later post. It is something I have relied on for many years in my spiritual life and in the last few years I have been trying to incorporate into my everyday existence as well:)
Honestly I don't want to give away too much of the books content. Instead I really want you to read it. It's Game Changer. Taking the Game out of relationships and bringing some soul into Calling in the One without all the misconceptions we have gotten use too. I seriously highly recommend everyone picking up a copy. Women and Men. Even married couples. Let's all get real in this department:)
I would also love to hear your thoughts on this very subject and maybe begin a on-going dialogue. I have begun a StoryboardC. Facebook Page and posted all the links included in this post and some other goodies.